How about asking your other half to make a jokey blokey comment to the other man if they see each other in the street along the lines of "you seem to be keeping the missus very happy at the moment" as then it will get back but without you having to have the embarrassing conversation.

Or - are you a terraced house? Write a polite note from "a friendly neighbour" explaining the walls are very thin, or they can be heard outside and would they please keep the action a little quieter, then they may not assume it is definitely you.

Good luck, and this reminds me about something else I need to ask NVNetters about sleepless nights….will post soon

I've been in your situation before. I just knocked on there door and politely told them I could hear everything . They where very embarrassed but they didn't realise I could hear them. Things quietened down a lot and life got back to normal. It's something you just have to do and see what reaction you get luckily mine was a positive outcome .

Good Luck

Thank you for all your advice.

I am still plucking up courage to say something but I need to as last night was the worst yet.

Felt like shouting out suggestions

You could try one of these notes:

http://happyplace.someecards.com/send-p ... g-loud-sex

This post made me LOL. We had a very similar 'issue' a while back. We called it the Fifty Shades Effect. We never heard a peek from our neighbours and then suddenly it went from zero to hero in the space of a few weeks. Three times a week we had 1hour full on 'fifty shades' going on 10ft from our bed and it was awful! I'm not sure where they got the energy (or stamina ) from....they have 2 boys. Anyway....we debated mentioning noise subtlety, shifted our bed times and even slept in our spare room on 'special occasions' ie a birthday - as it was particularly eventful on those nights - however thankfully the 'fifty shades effect' subsided as quickly as it began....and we rarely hear them now. We have a giggle about it now and again. Hopefully your neighbours are also just going through a phase.

one of the great things about living in a house is the freedom it gives you compared to a flat......your kids can jump and scream around in the house, you (well,....not me!) can wear high heels in the middle of the night, turn the music a bit loud.....without, most of the times bothering anybody.
.....or enjoy a bit of silence without being annoyed by your neighbours.

That peace, or freedom is now gone, probably for good as you dread going to bed....so talking to them would probably be just a limited relief.

I would definitely soundproof that chimney.....and maybe ask the neighbours if they want to do the same on their side!

Put white noise on your iPad...it helps sleep and blocks out an amazing amount of noise ......it will fill in the time between deciding what options to go for....
I wouldn't confront them directly...too touchy a subject....
Stella

err,mm, perhaps younwouldn't mind popping round with my business card and suggesting that they call me once they have confirmation of the fruits of their 'fun' in the bedroom????!

How about knocking the next morning after a particularly noisy night and asking them if they wouldn't mind turning the telly down in their bedroom late at night?

You can get your chimney stuffed which would work as a sandproof...otherwise as already suggested, I would knock on their door and just keep it vague... Say something along the lines if being able to hear absolutely everything so if after 10pm they could keep or down etc etc. good luck! Xxx

You could always try having a Meg Ryan moment during one of their quieter pauses...

Agree maybe when it is happening maybe bang on the walls and shout 'keep it down lovebirds' or say something humorous but loud so they hear?! Or turn up the music so they are aware you can hear them.
Assume they have no idea how much you can hear.

Or just as you say knock on their door and vaguely mention if they could keep it down after 10pm as you can hear everything through the walls. You could keep it vague...

Also suggest ear plugs regardless.

Wow I'm just cringing thinking about it.

Or just banging on the walls, that should give them the hint!

I feel for you, I spent years being disturbed by my neighbours.

Good luck

Perhaps turn it around and when you next bump into one of them say something like "gee I hope I wasn't too noisy the other night, I had a few friends over and we were having a good laugh. I'm sure you would have heard us as you hear EVERYTHING through these walls and down the chimney". Hopefully they'll take the hint…?
Good luck! I'm a very light sleeper myself so that would really bother me enough to move out!

How about getting some good rubbery earphones and retiring to bed with some relaxation music till the show is over!