Did you get caught out?
I see the blog has gone private

Sorry if I was mean. I did find your blog very interesting and kind of comedy at the same time. You are consenting adults and you are open with your husband and he is with you. But I still do feel this is both your need to live a bit because you settled down very young and it makes me wonder if there are other ways you can do this and how long you can maintain this setup?

I have heard of swingers in middle class suburbs and it just makes me think people must have been very repressed and bored to go down this route.

You seem very classist (Nothing wrong with a bit of rough :lol: ) and live in a small world which made you feel repressed. Maybe that's part of the problem. Perhaps you need to experience more in more life. You did settle down at quite a young age. Maybe volunteer, be more stimulated by how other people live, learn other points of views from different cultures and different social economic backgrounds.. move out of your nappy valley comfort zone maybe...

So the good news is, I read the rest of the blog and it was entertaining again. But I thought the last chapter told the story of someone who was very unhappy with life since becoming a mother, which makes for dad reading.
Constantly banging on about how middle class you are is also tiresome, no one on this forum will be particularly impressed by it and constantly reminding others of your social class is actually very naff.... what is so middle class and middle aged about a whatsapp group??!

@elodiemax, your blog made me smile. You write well. Whether it is true or not, a real diary or a promotion of a book, who cares - there is no obligation to read the blog or buy the book (if there will be one), so not sure what people are getting so worked up about. Good for you for having found something that works for you and your husband although it is definitely not for everybody. Enjoy your fun.

[quote="battyseemum"]I'm not a first time poster. I've just not posted in a long time and had to set up a new account due to losing my previous user name and password.

You have to admit though, some of the comments on here are really disappointing and must be very difficult to read for the OP. I'm surprised at how harsh some of the commenters are.[/quote]

"Have the nappyvalley mums just been outed as small-minded, prudish bigots? I certainly hope not. But this is what I'm seeing in these responses. "

I didn't think any of the responses were harsh,just different people pointing out they like different things from the OP.As I stated before I don't care about others sex life and I won't be reading the blog again as I don't find it interesting.I suggested the OP to tone down the snobby tone as she comes across completely out of touch! If not wanting to be f***** by someone else than my husband put me in the small-minded,prudish basket...then so be it! :lol:

I'm not a first time poster. I've just not posted in a long time and had to set up a new account due to losing my previous user name and password.

You have to admit though, some of the comments on here are really disappointing and must be very difficult to read for the OP. I'm surprised at how harsh some of the commenters are.

It's always good when a first time poster comes along to call people trolls

Welcome to NVN [b]battyseemum
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I don't want to be harsh... I hardly post...

Sorry to say, I found your blog a bit sad. I got to the end of the second chapter and couldn't read anymore.

You don't sound "liberated" as you are self conscious about showing your mum-tum and the tone suggests you are faking some kind of enjoyment. Do you have self esteem issues? Having sex In front of your husband doesn't excuse the existing problems that you have with one another. One day you will still be at square one. By then you would of exhausted all sexual options and be left with an older and wrinkled shell. A shell which won't be appealing.

It's an emotional head Fxxx and the only people this could effect is your children, if you let something slip. No pun intended!

Also, would you suggest this unorthodox route, for one of your children, if their marriage hits a blip in 30 years?!

Actually I’m finding the blogs quite hilarious. Am picturing Elodie in ten year’s time desperately trying to summon up the energy for all this stuff after spending evening arguing with stroppy teenage children and being woken up after returning from sexual encounter by gallumphing child who has realised at 4am that they have lost their house key - again!

I'm quite surprised and disappointed by the judgemental, troll-like comments made here. Have the nappyvalley mums just been outed as small-minded, prudish bigots? I certainly hope not. But this is what I'm seeing in these responses.

@elodiemax has been super gracious in her response to your comments, taking it all on board and offering further information, despite being personally attacked by a lot of you.

Go for it @elodiemax! If it works and you're both happy and it's also able to provide you with masses of content for some creative outlet then it's a win win for you and your husband.

I'm afraid I stopped reading at the 'more expensive parties mean it isn't going to be full of chavs or unattractive people'. Is your real name Katy Hopkins by any chance?

Red velvet sofas? Really?! You kind of lost me there in that I had to question if this is all actually fictional and not RL.

I don't really have an opinion on what you and your husband are in to and certainly don't find it shocking - each to there own. I do find the tone rather snobby though, in a milder version of Katie Hopkins sort of way.

I enjoyed the read, and would follow your story. Wouldn't buy the book.

It strikes me as someone desperate for outside validation. The whole 'I'm so fantastic because I'm middle class and live in Clapham and therefore God forbid I come into contact with someone not like me' is a bit sad.
Then again, it's an amusing read and I read the whole thing, so it has entertainment value certainly. Not something I would ever partake in but happy that it works for you and that you are willing to share it for the world!

"people don’t talk about their sex lives or the state of their marriages"

Lots of people I am friends with talk about both...