Please, help me to make a decision

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Please, help me to make a decision

Postby lollypop2017 » Sat Feb 25, 2017 6:58 pm

Hi, everybody. I’m not infertile, but I need egg donation due to a bad heredity. Several of my close relatives have split mind syndrome, and there is a great possibility that future child will have the same. My hubby and I have visited several geneticists, and all of them confirm such possibility. As the price really matters to us, we decided to try our luck overseas. We’ve chosen the clinic, and visited it several weeks ago. Today I’m going to share my feedback about this clinic and I also want you or help to understand whether this clinic is worth contacting or not… Firstly, I would like to tell you some words about the clinic. We contacted its representatives via phone and email, and, finally, came to visit them. We were met by the interpreter at the airport and then taken to the apartment. The following day we went to the clinic, and here are the things we saw there… The clinic turned to be a small private villa. We visited it several times, and it was always overcrowded with visitors. We had to stay in the queue for nearly half an hour to speak with the clinic administrator. She turned to be very unfriendly and formal lady. She told us that our program manager was busy at that moment, and we can contact any fertility specialist we like at the clinic. There were loads of visitors near all doctors’ offices, and we waited nearly half an hour before the doctor was ready to meet us. Overall, we liked the way she spoke with us, but we decided not to sign up contract yet. We contacted another clinic in that country. The things were quite different there. Firstly, we were met by a courteous administrator. The program manager was free and followed us to the doctor immediately. The doctor was very soothing. She told us that our health tests are perfect, and we have great chances to succeed.
However, I was impressed by the fact that the clinic’s halls were empty. We were the only couple who visited them that day… We also decided not to sign up a contract with them. And now I have to decide which clinic to choose. So I want to ask you a question: if the clinic is so overcrowded, does it mean that it’s a popular one??? Can we get good medical services in the clinic that can’t organize its work properly??? Please, help me to make the right decision!!!

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Postby Annabel (admin) » Sat Feb 25, 2017 7:25 pm

Hello
Thank you for posting on NVN.

I am so sorry you are in this situation.

Secondly, can you share a little information about what you are looking for us to help you with?

I'm quite confused at the moment.

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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Postby Chucka » Mon Feb 27, 2017 10:47 am

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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Postby Chucka » Mon Feb 27, 2017 10:51 am

and again!
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Postby Chucka » Mon Feb 27, 2017 10:53 am

Hi hon

I am the mum of a child with a neuro disability and I do understand your fears but hope I might offer another perspective?

I am not sure what split mind syndrome is. I had a look at this. People with split brain syndrome living their lives with their joys and sorrows just like everyone else https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHgClWAPbBY

All I know is that when your child comes you will love her/him with their disability too. I would never swop my child for one more able. There is an amazing bond even though others cannot always see it. I am so so happy.

A child conceived by egg donation will still have a biological mother (the egg donor). And to support such egg donation is to create children in order to deliberate separate them from their biological mother.

What if the child conceived by egg donation has some other condition that is difficult? Would you wish you had just taken your chances on the natural child you would have had with your partner?

Maybe do not worry about your child as a 'possible condition' . She/he will be someone you will absolutely and helplessly love -even much to your own surprise.

There is a great deal of support for parents of children with disabilities locally. My child's condition has brought our family into contact with wonderful people we would never have met otherwise. I am very changed.

When the time comes we are capable of more love than we know.


xxx
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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Postby nicolap » Mon Feb 27, 2017 11:05 am

Hi there
I have been through egg donations with an amazing clinic in the states which is also linked to the Lister here in London.

Please send me an email if you want to chat more about it as I have had my two children with them and cannot fault anything there

Nicola :) x
Nicolap2@hotmail.com

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Postby LadyNettles » Thu Mar 09, 2017 6:38 pm

Hi, dear! I’m really sorry for your struggles. I think it’s really up to you what to do further. Of course, you may try to conceive with your own eggs. The fact that several of your close relatives are ill due to a bad heredity isn’t good. But I’ll repeat one more time that everything depends on you. As for the clinic, I think the best advice would be to trust your gut. If you don’t like them, you may quit them. Otherwise, I would try to get to know more information about their success rates. You may also try to browse some fertility forums to find some feedbacks about this clinic.

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Re: Please, help me to make a decision

Postby LadyCarol » Sun Mar 19, 2017 11:41 am

For me, choosing the clinic is the key moment. Whether you do a simple IVF or ED IVF, you should be totally sure that you deal with real professionals. You must trust your doctors and feel comfortable with them. I would advise you to choose the clinic that really suits you. I did an ED IVF nearly a year ago. We visited several clinics, and I chose the one where I totally liked the specialist who would be in charge of my program. I would advise you to choose the clinic that offers oocytes of young egg donors. They are considered to be the best for the ED IVF.


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