My rules
- no attendance = no party bag (unless I have some left over and it's easy to hand them over or a child was ill and unable to attend etc..) but generally NO
- again no attendance = no present unless child is a VERY close friend of my child and my child couldn't attend due to illness, holiday etc....
- for a school friend about a tenner, close friend £10-£15 but a perfect £5 gift is always better than a badly chosen £20 one (my 5yo's favourite gift was a tube of maltesers
one year). I often load up on presents if I see something good on special offer so probably less than £10 if I am organised.
- I recycle all the time
, I have twins and often get duplicates (we got 5 of the same LEGO set one year) but I wouldn't recycle something too obvious in the same class. I also wouldn't give something as a present which I wouldn't have considered buying myself (I'm thinking of the time we were given Hama beads for a 3 year old) - they go to charity shop or school jumble.