by misstemple » Thu Jun 15, 2017 10:15 am
When my husband & I met we were both heavy smokers. After years of thinking about it, I cut down, I quit, he quit...sort of! I don't love it that he still smokes occasionally but I know he really enjoys it, and that's enough for me. I've adopted a vegan diet which can be really hard to work around, but bless him, he supports me.
My point here, briefly, is that life changes!
There is no way my husband is the same man I married, and I am miles away from who I was 5 years ago too. I can't imagine how you could both still be tied to who you were 10 years ago. Love runs deep, and your married life is akin to a river, it changes every day as it flows, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly...
That said, I would be disappointed if my husband suddenly started going out with the boys every week or developed a taste for expensive cars... but it might happen and I would stand by what makes him happy.
I agree with the other poster, you need to be able to have the conversation. Your body is your own, after all.
When my husband & I met we were both heavy smokers. After years of thinking about it, I cut down, I quit, he quit...sort of! I don't love it that he still smokes occasionally but I know he really enjoys it, and that's enough for me. I've adopted a vegan diet which can be really hard to work around, but bless him, he supports me.
My point here, briefly, is that life changes!
There is no way my husband is the same man I married, and I am miles away from who I was 5 years ago too. I can't imagine how you could both still be tied to who you were 10 years ago. Love runs deep, and your married life is akin to a river, it changes every day as it flows, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly...
That said, I would be disappointed if my husband suddenly started going out with the boys every week or developed a taste for expensive cars... but it might happen and I would stand by what makes him happy.
I agree with the other poster, you need to be able to have the conversation. Your body is your own, after all.